Don’t Feed The Dogs



Breakfast is kind of a daily ritual for me. Eating is one of the few things I do on a consistent basis. Other than eating I am pretty much all over the place. Anyhow, part of my breakfast routine is biscuits, English muffins, donuts…with or without the holes, or some other healthy doughy thing. Some mornings when I forget how to use the toaster oven, Lynne will assist as my sous chef, but mainly I hunker through it on my own.

Some days when I fall off my Vegan wagon, I may have a biscuit with bacon or egg… Please… don’t give me that look, like you never fell off the drinking or eating wagon once in a while.

Ok, so you’re wondering when I am going to get to the “Don’t feed the dogs” part. Be patient; I’m working my way up to that. Writing 101, which I forget to attend, says you’ve got to paint a picture before you jump into the meat of the issue – intentional pun – so this is just the picture painting part.

Ok, now back to the story. Lynne remains in the kitchen rearranging things as usual, so I head off to my office to sit – or hide – in my leather chair and eat my breakfast. The dogs are on red alert at breakfast time, so they spot my feet move in the direction of my office and immediately wake from their sound sleep. They skimmer, and in a flash, surround my feet, each taking a turn to trip me, hoping to get the entire meal to themselves; not just pinches at a time of “their breakfast.”

Heading out of the kitchen to my office, Lynne says like clockwork, “don’t feed the dogs – they’ll get sick, and I’ll have to clean it up.” I always politely reply, “I won’t feed them, I never do.” So now comfortable in my Raiders of the Lost Ark style brown leather chair, I sit. I take a few bites, my Jackson, a large Australian Shepherd, black and white, who closely resembles a Panda, except with a longer nose starts his begging and drooling routine.

I rescued Jackson from one of the kill shelters we went to once a week to pull death row dogs. He was supposed to be flown to Illinois after I rescued him, but as soon as he put his sad, frightened butt onto the front seat of my truck, hung his head, coughed and looked at me sadly I instantly fell in love with him. So, we called the out of state rescue I was pulling him for, sheepishly informing them we would be keeping him.  Plus, when I took him to the vet, the Doc found Jackson had a severe Parvo infection and other shelter infections  – so Jackson was too sick to go anywhere for at least 90 days.

Now back to the breakfast starting lineup. Jackson is the lead batter each morning. Within 30 seconds of closely following my eyes as I put food into my mouth, Jackson starts his drooling and dripping routine, on my foot or the shiny wood floors. Our other three rescues – the little ones – as we call them, take their pre-assigned spots as well. Sweet Pea is a miniature Doxie that was left in a house, all alone with her two puppies for a week, while her inspiring mother was sitting in a jail cell in the county prison. Luckily our rescue director found about her and we got custody. After two months, and not finding a new home for Sweet Pea and her little brown pups Lynne fell in love with her, and we adopted Sweet Pea ourselves.

Now, this is the assigned breakfast seating line-up – Sweet-Pea hides demurely behind Jackson, Ruby, another of our death row rescues, who is part Chihuahua, part yellow lab, 13 pounds and 1 foot high claims the middle spot. Ruby is the hyper one, full of mischief and energy. She is always in hyper mode. When someone proceeds to pet Ruby she wiggles, squirms and promptly peas puddles on the floor.

And last in the batting order is Tia our first rescue. Seems tea’s major sin in her life was she peed on the carpet; so, the Wicked Witch of the West, Tia’s original owner took her to the vet, demanding Tia be put down. The Vet ignored her insanity and said he would keep her and find her a sane home. As fortune would be Lynne and I went to the vet the next week with one sick dog and walked out the next day with two dogs instead of the just one we walked in with. You know the story, Lynne fell in love with her, so we adopted her. Tia is the oldest of our four and queen of the pack. At her age of 15 now she is a bit grouchy at times. She is still full of life, runs in circles around the house, then drops and lays on her side panting. Tia is a 12-pound black Chi-Weenie. Mostly Chihuahua, but part Dachshund – kind of like a really stretched out Chihuahua.

Ok, back to breakfast, the gang is all in their designated parking spots. The breakfast games begin! I listen close, determining where Lynne is. Is she still out of sight in the kitchen, or is she upstairs rearranging things, making a bed, or taking a shower.? I especially love the shower part as I know I’ve now got all the time I need to do what I was requested to do…feed the dogs my breakfast.

I forget to mention I have Dyslexia, not of the eyes, no, of the spoken word. Seems since childhood I have never been able to hear the words, “Do not, or don’t do that.” To this day I never hear the words “do not”, or I can’t do that. So, when Lynne says, “do not feed the dogs,” I only hear, “Do feed the dogs, please.” So as ordered, I feed the dogs part of my breakfast. Fortunately for me, not once have any of the gang of four ratted me out on our little morning routine.

Now, to a bit more serious part of this story. My reasoning, or plausible excuse, for feeding my dogs tiny chunks of real food is because I think eating bone dry, rock hard kibble every day for life is not a great idea. Dogs need real food and real meat, not fake meat cooked to a thousand degrees in a giant oven and then extruded into little food looking nuggets, along with a touch of food color, and a hint of vegetables for more authenticity to fool the pet parents. Dogs aren’t being fooled at all, however. Remember this; their sight and taste are some zillion times better than ours.

And on top of that, do we believe meat cooked at a thousand degrees is still meat.?  Now, in Kibble’s defense, the average American household dog lives about a dozen years; many live longer, so perhaps kibble is not all rat poison, but I still know that a whole, raw and unprocessed dog food that has not been dehydrated or processed provides the most nutrition for our pet’s.

So, what should we feed your dogs, besides my breakfast biscuits? Founding a local non-profit pet food pantry and then death row dog rescue 15 years ago I stay on top of the latest science on pet food and overall pet wellness. Daily I go to my best source, that I respect, a national expert on pet nutrition and care, Dr. Karen Becker. I review her articles and blog daily. Here are her brief comments on the appropriate feeding for your pet.

Species-appropriate nutrition.

The diet you feed your pet should be nutritionally balanced and biologically appropriate for a carnivore [dog]. Biologically inappropriate foods cause metabolic and mitochondrial stress and illness. Foods that generate the least amount of metabolic stress are in their natural form — whole, raw and unprocessed. Foods that have not been dehydrated or processed provide the most nutrition for your pet’s body.

Species-appropriate for your carnivorous dog means food that is high in protein and low in grain content. Dogs are scavenging carnivores. Scavenging carnivores, by nature, are meat eaters that don’t hunt, but instead find their meat from an already eaten carcass or another animal’s leftovers. Obligate carnivores are animals that must consume the tissue of other animals to thrive, according to its genetic makeup. Obligate carnivores may eat different foods, such as vegetables, grains or fruit, but they must eat meat as the primary source of their nutrients. So, carnivores need to eat animal protein and fat to be optimally healthy.

So instead of only grain-based Kibble, I recommend pet food in its natural state to provide needed moisture, nutritionally balanced and biologically appropriate dog food to ensure the highest level of biologic assimilation and digestion.

Skip all the commercial weight control and ‘low fat’ diets. Regardless of their weight, your dog still needs the right nutrition for their species, which means food that is high in animal protein and moisture, with low or no grain content.

You can still use Kibble, but it must be a high-quality brand with meat first followed by vegetables and then just a small amount of grain for fiber. And make sure it has all the needed amino acids.

Oh, one last thing. If by chance, you know my wife Lynne, let’s keep my tiny morning feeding transgression to ourselves. Jackson, Ruby, Sweet Pea and Tia will be forever in your debt.

For the love of Dogs,
Steve Monahan


New Study You may not be an Extrovert Or An Introvert

There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum”. – Carl G Jung

My mentoring organization leads business owner round tables. At many of our round table meetings the conversation of one of us being an “Introvert” or an “Extrovert” usually comes up. The general consensus is usually something like this.

  • Extroversion relates to how outgoing someone is
  • Introversion relates to how shy or quiet someone is.

That was kind of my general belief as well. But after researching the topic of Extrovert  or Introvert for this week’s CEOM mastermind my research into Carl Jung who developed the term however found that common belief is really off! 

The term introvert and extrovert (originally spelled extravert) were popularized by Carl Jung in the early 20th century. However, their meanings got confused between then and now, and we all started thinking that everyone belongs to one camp or the other. But actually, Carl’s point was that these are the very extremes of a scale. This means that many people fall somewhere in the middle of introvert and extravert. People in the middle of the scale are named Ambiverts.

Recent research has shown that introvert and extrovert actually relate to where we get our energy from. Or in other words, how we recharge our brains batteries 

Introverts (or those of us with introverted tendencies) tend to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. 

Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people. Extroverts actually find their energy is sapped when they spend too much time alone. They recharge by being social.

In the 60s, psychologist Hans Eysenck proposed that the difference between introverts and extroverts was that they simply had different levels of arousal—meaning the extent to which our minds and bodies are alert and responsive to stimulation.

For introverts, this kind of stimulation can be overwhelming, since their rate of arousal is much higher, so they are stimulated easily. Time alone, one-on-one conversations and predictable situations are more likely to be pleasant for introverts who are more sensitive to external stimulation.

Introverts are tricky to understand, since it’s so easy for us to assume that introversion is the same as being shy, when in fact introverts are simply people who find it tiring to be around other people.For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Introverted people are known for thinking things through before they speak, enjoying small, close groups of friends and one-on-one time, needing time alone to recharge and being upset by unexpected changes or last-minute surprises. Introverts are not necessarily shy, and may not even avoid social situations, but they will definitely need some time alone or just with close friends or family after spending time in a big crowd.

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Extroverts: On the opposite side of the coin, people who are Extroverted are energized by people. They usually enjoy spending time with others, as this is how they recharge from time spent alone focusing or working hard. This is for example how an extrovert explains the way they gain energy from being around other people: When I am among people, I make eye contact, smile, and maybe chat if there’s an opportunity (like being stuck in a long grocery store line). As an extrovert, that’s a small ‘ping’ of needed energy, a little positive moment in the day.


Ambiverts – the in-between’s

Since introverts and extroverts are the extremes of the scale, the rest of us fall somewhere in the middle. Many of us lean one way or the other, but there are some who are quite balanced between the two tendencies. These people are named Ambiverts.


For this research and CEOM lesson I took a personality test. As it turns out I fall in the middle of Introvert and Extrovert… I am an Ambivert.

I took the free test 1-3-2014: TEST LINK:

Here is what my test result said: “You’re an Ambivert. That means you’re neither strongly introverted nor strongly extraverted. Recent research by Adam Grant of the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School of Management has found that Ambiverts make the best salespeople. Ambiverts tend to be adept at the quality of attunement. They know when to push and when to hold back, when to speak up and when to shut up. So don’t fall for the myth of the extraverted sales star. Just keep being your Ambiverted self”. 

Additional, Ambiverts exhibit both extroverted and introverted tendencies. This means that they generally enjoy being around people, but after a long time this will start to drain them. I recognize this in myself and even mentioned it I think at our last mastermind. My guess is some of you are Ambiverts as well. Ambiverts enjoy solitude and quiet, but not for too long.

Ambiverts recharge their energy levels with a mixture of social interaction and alone time. For me I can be home two days working and writing, but on day 3 I need to be out meeting face to face with people. If I do not get out with people and have a stimulating conversation I get tired and agitated and become unproductive, as my energy was drained after two days of being an introvert. Being in the middle I need half time as an extrovert and half time as in introvert any given week. I have learned through trial and error that  two days inside by myself working and writing and then two days outside meeting with friends and business associates works very well for optimum balanced energy and happiness for my psyche.

Though Ambiverts seem to be the more boring personality type by being in the middle of everyone else, this balance can actually be a good thing. A study by Adam Grant, author of *Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success found that Ambiverts perform much better in sales than either pure introverts or pure extroverts. Ambiverts actually closed 24% more sales.

The commonly held myth that being highly extroverted is important for a salesperson is actually untrue, since extreme extroverts lack the balance of a Ambiverts which helps them to use varied and creative approaches to closing a sale. I call it good cop…bad cop marketing.:]

In closing I suggest you take the Introvert / Extrovert test. It is free….TEST LINK:

Then knowing where you are on the scale you will better know how to flow your energy and discharge, or recharge your energy level for the week.

Also, remember we live in an ever-changing creative Universe. Nothing is fixed. You can change how you react to life and who you are by your thoughts and repetition. We are masters –  not prisoners of our mind and our DNA.

Research: Carl Jung Library, Wikipedia, Belle Beth Cooper

Free – Create a simple but powerful MY LIFE PLAN

alice in wonderlandWould you  please tell which way I ought to go from here?” said Alice.

That depends a good deal on where you want to get to” said the Cat.

I don’t much care where….” Said Alice.

Then it doesn’t matter which way you go” said the Cat.

                                           Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll


My fellow travelers do you know where you are going in life?

Do you know what you want to do with the precious gift of life you have been given?

 Do you know clearly why you are here?

 Do you know how you will serve with the special gift you have been given?

 Do you know who you will share your unique gift with?…..If not, why not?

Please don’t be like Alice, frantically wandering around without direction, without knowing your special unique purpose in life.

To help you find exactly where you need to be going in life we have created a unique;


This simple but powerfully awakening and enlightening life plan is designed to help you actualize a transformational life. A life with passion – purpose – direction.


Seven years ago after surviving a terminal illness I created this Life Plan to re-build my own life over. I now use it in my business & life coaching.

Uncover your unique God-given talent… and then share it with others.

Answer these 4 questions and you will open your mind and your heart to ideas to start manifesting a life of purpose and happiness.

  1. What do I want to do?
  2. Why do I want to do it?
  3. Whole will I serve in this life?
  4. How will I make their life, my life and this world a happier more loving place for all to share.

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 “Be true to yourself, help others, make each day your masterpiece, make friendship a fine art, drink deeply from good books – especially the Bible, build a shelter against a rainy day, give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day”  John Wooden

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Stop giving a damn about everything. But do a big damn about one thing. Care only about what is important. Don’t give a second thought to everything else. Screw what others think. Screw what others have. Screw what others want. What do you want? Screw everything else. You can’t have a passion for everything, but you can have a passion for one thing.

Don’t hide in the darkness. Bathe in the light.

Stop being pissed off, about always being pissed off. Stop being mad at yourself, for always being mad at yourself. Stop being unhappy, for always being unhappy. Get over your ego. Get over your feelings. Get over your thoughts. They are barriers.

Everything you give a damn about owns you. Less is better. More is worse.

When I could not stand my f*****g career anymore I became free. When I gave a damn I was blind. When I finally didn’t give a damn what would happen and quit at the height of my career, I rose to a new height. I saw the light. It was always there. I just couldn’t see it in the darkness.

Fall down often. Just get up. Fail often. Just don’t quit. The more you fight your fears, the stronger your fears get.

Stop perusing feeling happy. Stop perusing enlightenment. You are the Light. By perusing it you are telling yourself and everyone else you are not happy and not enlightened. You don’t pursue what you already have. You pursue what you think you don’t have. The more you pursue the light the darker it gets.

Stop giving a f**k about all the small crap. When you stop chasing what you want, it will chase you. Alan Watts, the Zen philosopher called it the Backwards Law.

Don’t build more walls of fear in your mind. Knock them down. They are not solid. Let them blow away. The more walls of fear you build, the bigger your prison becomes.The bigger the minds prison walls the darker it gets.

When there are no walls, the light shine’s in.

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Carl Jung: What He would Think of the Obama Iran Treaty

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Lamb and the Wolf

Carl Gustav Jung; 26 July 1875 – 6 June 1961), often referred to as C. G. Jung, was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist who founded analytical psychology.

His work has been influential not only in psychiatry but also in philosophy, anthropology, archaeology, literature, and religious studies. He was a prolific writer, though many of his works were not published until after his death.

I have studied Jung for years and he is always one of my go to sources in research for by writings; books and blogs. I was recently reading the following letter he wrote to a pastor in 1951 who was advocating for Germany to disarm. Jung wrote the pastor and to the pastors surprise felt it would be disaster for Germany to NOT rearm.

Jung pointed out that those who are pacifists in the face of evil have a subconscious wish to be martyrs and die a glorious death.

“The really dangerous ones are the harmless dreamers who don’t know that they want to perish gloriously yet again through their accursed playing the savior.  C.G.Jung 

I see the parallels in those that wanted Germany to disarm with those today who feel a treaty with Iran will bring peace. It will not bring peace! It will bring war. It will usher in Armageddon. For weakness is what countries like Iran and Russia feed on. We live in a world where force rules. It is not what we want but it is what we humans do.

“It must indeed be dreaming if one thinks one can live unarmed in an anarchic world where only guile and force count” . C.G. Jung 

Jung points out that even in the 1950’s the world say that Russia had aspiration to rule the world. And to force it’s sickness upon the world. With Russia and Iran getting cozier and cozier we are in for a double dose of poison.

“And that’s how it would be for you too with the Russians, for they also are universal saviors who want to cure the whole world with their own disease, just as the Nazis did” C.G. Jung  

“You know very well: “I feel provoked,” said the wolf to the lamb”

This Obama treaty is built on weakness and by weak minds. Minds that believe the lamb can lay peacefully with the wolf. That only happens in fairy tales. This is not a fairy tale world. This is a world of good and bad. Of evil and of love. One must know who is who and what is what. I wish it were not so but in the world of flesh it is so.

“But let man, mindful of his hubris, be content with the lesser evil and beware of the satanic temptation of the grand gesture, which is only intended for show and self-intoxication” C. G. Jung


Here is the letter. Again I find the parallels as to then and to now eerily connected.


To Pastor Fritz Pfaffiin

Dear Pastor Pfaffiin, 22 March 1951

I was very glad to hear from you again. Unfortunately I cannot fulfill your wish.

I have so many other things to do and I can’t do nearly as much as I did before.

Nor am I allowed to overwork.

I don’t know what kind of dream material you could mean, and how it is supposed to link up with the unarmed neutrality of Germany.

The disarmament of Germany is itself a dream which could only occur in a sleeping nation-the very nation which has overrun its neighbors twice in a quarter of a century.

It is the dream of a profoundly warlike nation that consciously considers itself harmless and peace-loving.

It must indeed be dreaming if one thinks one can live unarmed in an anarchic world where only guile and force count.

Every German who is not asleep and dreaming knows that it is time, highest time to rearm, and the more consciously he does so the better it will be for peace.

The really dangerous ones are the harmless dreamers who don’t know that they want to perish gloriously yet again through their accursed playing the savior.

One time they strike their fellow men dead in order to convert them to the new religion of Nazism; the next time they preach disarmament in order to hand over their own country to Russian tyranny.

How would it have gone with us in Switzerland if we had had no army!

People like Herr Noack would have got a pension for doing useful preparatory work, and the rest of us would simply have been stood up against the wall by the culture-bringers.

And that’s how it would be for you too with the Russians, for they also are universal saviors who want to cure the whole world with their own disease, just as the Nazis did.

Do you seriously believe that any robber would be scared off by German disarmament?

You know very well: “I feel provoked,” said the wolf to the lamb.

One can also be neutral when armed, without falling a victim to militarism.

But unarmed neutrality seems to me, and probably to all non-Germans as well, the acme of failed instinct, to which I would add, from my intimate acquaintance with the German national character, German crankiness, which is something out of this world.

The dangerous thing about Noack’s proposal is that it represents yet another attempt at national suicide.

Whence comes the recklessness or “intemperance” of the Germans, whence their love of national downfall?

When Jacob Burckhardt heard of the declaration of Empire at Versailles, he exclaimed: “That means the downfall of Germany.”

Since then there has been no let-up in these down falling attempts.

One might, it seems to me, try to be reasonable for a change.

I hope, my dear Pastor, you will pardon these humble opinions.

They may make it clear to you why it seems to me quite out of the question-even if it were possible on other grounds-to give serious consideration to your proposal.

Please regard this letter as a private expression of my views. I have no wish to insult the German nation in the shape of its individual representatives.

To have arms is an evil; to have no arms is a still greater evil.

The reasonable man is modestly content with the lesser evil; he prefers to look at heroic Gotterdammerungen and suchlike Herostratic gestures in the theatre, to lock up madmen betimes and not worship them as leaders and saviors.

My words and warnings in this connection are as futile and useless as Jacob Burckhardt’s.

“Si non crediderunt tibi neque a udierunt sermonem signi prioris,” then only God speaks the word.

But let man, mindful of his hubris, be content with the lesser evil and beware of the satanic temptation of the grand gesture, which is only intended for show and self-intoxication.

Best regards, C.G. Jung

~Carl Jung, Letters Vol. II, Pages 11-12.


 We will never pacify the closed minded ideology of Iran and Russia. They want a free America removed from this earth. They don’t play fair. They don’t play nice and they don’t play honest. I pray that Congress and the Senate reject this treaty with Iran and its silent partner Russia. Let us not be full of ourselves, and pretend to be Saviors and bringers of peace. It will kill us!

The world has already had one Savior. We cannot be so ego filled to believe we can be the second Savior.  Man cannot save man. Only God can save man from himself.

Steve Monahan, writer